Since posting more pictures of me online the influx of
creepy private messages and comments has soared. They either want to cure me of
my disability, marry me or both, and quite frankly I’d much rather they just
pissed off.
I received this comment on an image of me sat in my
wheelchair the other week:
‘I’ve always wanted to try a chick in a wheelchair.’
Dear Randy (I know it’s Jonathan but this seems more fitting),
I have a feeling that nobody taught you any manners when
growing up and that’s a shame because common decency and being polite are two
really good qualities that you should consider using.
I also believe that nobody taught you the correct way to
interact with women as the disgusting comment you left on my photograph is
something you should never say to anyone, abled or disabled. You can’t ‘try’
people; I’m not something served up on a buffet table. I’m not an object; I’m
not something you tick off your list. I’m a person, a human being. You probably
have some archaic way of thinking and believe disabled people are alien but you
are very wrong, Randy.
You probably consider women, abled and disabled, commodities
and have zero respect for us. We’re not here for you to sample. We’re not here
for you at all.
By offering to ‘try’ me, you’re not doing me a favour.
Believe it or not, disabled people are desirable, we’re sexy as hell and we don’t
sit around waiting for men to fall into our mentions donating their services to
us as if they’re doing something gallant and brave. You’re not a hero, you’re
not virtuous and you’re not philanthropic; you’re nauseating. You think by
presenting yourself to me that you’re my only option? Sod off, mate. If I wasn’t
in a relationship, you’d not even be on my radar. It’s not witty, it’s not
romantic and it’s not charming.
If this is the kind of messages you’re sending to women, it’s
obvious why you’re single and I highly doubt you’ll be inundated with replies
because you’re creepy and gross.
Furthermore, I’m not a fucking ‘chick’. If you’d have said
this to me in person, which I know you wouldn’t because you’re one of those men
that are only confident when hiding behind a keyboard, I’d have punched you in
the fucking face…with a brick because I don’t like touching misogynists.
Please make sure this is the last time you say this kind of
thing to someone.
Cheers,
A wheelchair user
Unsurprisingly this isn’t the only ableist comment I’ve had,
I get them on my Instagram account on a daily basis. They’re always men, the
messages are always repulsive and I always block them. I’ve started a hashtag
on Twitter #AbleistCommentOTD so check that out to see the kind of bullshit I’ve
shared recently.
I love a bit of ableism wrapped up in misogyny. Said no one ever.
I've seen how many of these comments you get on a daily basis and I honestly don't know why these men think it's ok to make comments like they do, this post is ace btw and you was right I do love it!! perfectly put x
ReplyDeleteLove how you stand up for yourself and the community. You're so brave! I can't believe some people even think things like that... and then decide to comment it...
ReplyDeleteUGH. JUST UGH.
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Good for you! What a total ahole...��
ReplyDeleteGood for you! What a total ahole...��
ReplyDeleteExtremely excellent reply.. face brick..perfect!
ReplyDeleteI couldn’t cope with all that crap..you are very brave to do so ��
Epic response! High five 🙌
ReplyDeleteBrilliantly put - love this piece! Whether you are able bodied or disabled this is a matter of respect and decency. You put ol' Randy back in his corner - and other men who think it is ok to treat people this way!
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